Dear Friends:
some relationships naturally fade, some hold steady, some flourish with time. some require “work”, and some don’t. sometimes it doesn’t matter if you haven’t seen someone in two years. Sometimes it does. i say this because i have had reconnection/clarification conversations with a couple of friends recently and wonder if i should reach out to more people.
someone i care dearly for recently told me that despite the fact i told her i think about her all the time (and told her so), she feels like i don’t actually take the time to see her or make direct contact (not social networking) and don’t invite her to all the things i’m doing, so she didn’t quite know where our friendship stood.
all i can say is that i think of people i love often. i do, and i try to be mindful and i do little things like send notes and gifts at random times. some of the people i feel psychologically and spiritually closest to i don’t see for 2 or 3 months. or years. but i think of them all the time. but our lives are scattered, busy, full of odd schedules, and i keep a personal schedule that sometimes conflicts with social schedules. i will skip a dinner party if it means i won’t get to go to yoga that week. maybe sometimes my priorities are not what others think they should be. and yes, some of the things i do are not open to everyone, and so it’s true that maybe you were not invited to that one thing.
but i will also say that phones and email work two ways. it’s actually kind of amazing to me sometimes that with all my hundreds of friends (not “friends”, but Friends), my phone will go 2 days, 3 days without a single beep to annouce a call or text message if i don’t instigate contact first. i email people and they don’t write back (i’m very big into personal, private email. the art of letter writing! ). it happens. but i almost never ignore a friend when they contact me. if i do, it’s a rare mistake.
so i guess what i’m saying is that if you think we used to be friends but you feel that somehow we’ve fallen out, or maybe i did do something specific that turned you off, if you want to, please call, text or email me. i’m sure we can reconnect.
love~
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